This might seem a bit out there, but creating an accountability system or checks and balances in your marriage is the first step to dealing with finances as a married couple.
I am accountable to our future goals, we make decisions together… and it really isn’t hard at all. This is the same reason why I always say everyone should have a mentor in life.
We are naturally selfish creatures. Having a significant other is all about being selfless. So when I hear people say they have separate bank accounts I kinda wonder why.
Like writing your notes down in school instead of just listening, being involved in the financial process each month in your household will create awareness.